Purpose and meaning

[O_Bruce]

Find out what you're good at and go from there Fuck what others and society think are 'worthy'. Are you good with people and persuasion? Find a worthy cause and champion it. Are you more of a behind the scenes inspirer? Find a charismatic leader you can champion. Are you an artist? Find a way to set yourself apart from the norm. Success favors the bold, not the timid.

My response is not going to refer by my current mental or emotional state whatsover. I just want to conduct an mental exercise.

Do you think saiyng what you said to someone who tried multiple things already and feel bad in everything would be remotely helpful?

 

[Balrog99]

Well, you never know what' might spark something. Sorry, but I just don't have anything else of use to offer. I do hope your situation improves though.

 

[Skatan]

I think after some time, a bit of an update is in order.

I'd like to thank Skatan for his post, first of all. It is informative and it deserves to be recognized. I think between everyone's post here and advice, information I received online and from my real-life friends, I think I can see the common link in all of those. It is not "find love" or anything specific like that: it's about exploring life and its possibilities - since I don't really know who I am and where I am going - and about making and maintaining healthy human connections.

Good news is that several days before I've opened this topic, I've made a decision to learn a certain set of skills and thus taking a direction (I was, however, concerned about my (perceived?) inabillity to commit to it). Back then it was purely practical decision, but now I think it will also be a healthy endeavor for my mind. It helps that several days ago I also learned that, statistically, many people who are chosing fresh start in life don't end up regretting that decision.

With Maslow's pyramid of needs, it is worth noting it doesn't take into acount specific circumstances. Such as certain groups or individual valueing freedom over safety and so on, so on.

This is true, Maslow's theory is of course generic as all/most of these are. It covers the basics which means it apply generically to us all, and at the same time, to none of us in detail. It speaks more generally about people as a whole rather than individuals, but there are still lessons to be learned if one chose to. What I learned personally, though not by the time I read him back in Uni but rather years later when I grew older and did some retrospective thought, was that my early days of "failures" (shitty work, low pay, no career, bad relationships) wasn't wasted years. They set the foundation for what I have now, it provided basic health, enough money to pay rent, get my own place, get my experiences up for better future work with higher salary and also, perhaps most importantly, it gave me perspective and taught me what I value most and how to reach my own, personal self-actualization (hint: it was not through work). I spend too much time on reddit, but I've lost count on the number of posts in my country's sub from young people straight from Uni who lament over not getting the perfect job straight after their diploma. I did too back then. But yeah, I'm repeating myself already. Point being the above; life is a journey, each stop on the way is part of it. It's cliché as fuck, but that's the thing with cliches, they are what they are because they are true. Many of us spend decades fighting against the teachings of our parents only to grow and realize, shit.. they were right all along. The difference is, they became "adults" in their twenties, now in modern society we become adults in our thirties often (or sometimes even later).

Glad to hear you started something new. Hope it brings some fun into your life. Best wishes for you.