The "Let's complain about our jobs" Thread

[shmity72]

Well I'm not complaining about my job per se. I will add a 'people' complaint: Some friends or close people to me..sometimes I want to just say: Take a polaroid of yourself in the mirror, give yourself a kiss, and get over yourself.

Anyone feel me on that?

 

[O_Bruce]

If someone told me to "give myself kiss and get over myself", it would be like saying "just don't be depressed!" to a depressed person. Utterly not effective, and patronizing even.

 

[JustKneller]

Take a polaroid of yourself in the mirror, give yourself a kiss, and get over yourself.

I do something like that every day. Every morning, I look in the mirror and ask, "Who is that man? And how can I be more like him?"

(I'm kidding! )

 

[shmity72]

If someone told me to "give myself kiss and get over myself", it would be like saying "just don't be depressed!" to a depressed person. Utterly not effective, and patronizing even.

I see your point of view and take argument with it let us parse... I suffer from grave mental illness. Will power in and of itself does not solve anything in this world. Though attitude to will may provide a window good or bad depending on the perspective from which it came to a higher reality. the 'self'.

*read slowwwwwwwwly I know i have to or i sound like word salad.

The first image is how I biologically feel 7 /10ths of every waking hour. Pure death. The second image is a fallacy I keep stored in the back seat of my mind and pretend that the future may have a silver lining...and wallah! I find beauty in the gathering of Robins in the spring are not completely over shadowed by the sounds of Aprils thunder. Depression...no you don't pull yourself up by your bootstraps but can design your own minds paradigm for to RELEASE oneself from their reflective ego.

p.s. I'm really bad at it. And I'm trying to be better.

 

[O_Bruce]

I know that this is mainly a topic for venting about jobs, but I don't see any other active topic to type things like this.

I concluded that I am utterly incapable of feeling compassion towards myself. I know that in case my friend or any close one has messed up, I'd try to make them feel better, extend a helping hand, or at the very least, try to be informative. Or hell, just listen to them if I can't do anything else. I wouldn't be absolutely merciless towards them like I am to myself.

I know that there are ways to train self-compassion, but I don't believe them to be effective, in my case at the very least. If everything else in my life is a worthless failure, then why should I think that I can succeed in that?

 

[Antimatter]

Sometimes, no amount of "self-train" can help, and I recommend reaching out to a psychologist. Even 5 visits will make a big difference. Sending you & vibes!

 

[O_Bruce]

Appreciated

 

[shmity72]

I went to this ladies office today. She's bad ass. I was telling her about making you tube movies and she said check out mine:

I found curiosity to be interesting as an MO to interact with others. (including my closest loved ones). Point: there are as antimatter mentioned many resources that we cannot get from necessarily a DIY on you tube.

I'm reading this book: It takes what it takes. It's about neutral thinking. not positive thoughts'' not eliminating the bad. Just neutral.

long story short. in the book he said scientifically vocal '' thoughts as opposed to silent ones are 4x powerful. <another reason for talking to someone professional.

AND negative vocal thoughts are 10x more powerful than positive. Remember when grandma said if you don't have something good to say don't say anything at all? that includes self talk presumably. sending thought vibes your way of solace and healing. peace out~

 

[shmity72]

I know that this is mainly a topic for venting about jobs, but I don't see any other active topic to type things like this.

I concluded that I am utterly incapable of feeling compassion towards myself. I know that in case my friend or any close one has messed up, I'd try to make them feel better, extend a helping hand, or at the very least, try to be informative. Or hell, just listen to them if I can't do anything else. I wouldn't be absolutely merciless towards them like I am to myself.

I know that there are ways to train self-compassion, but I don't believe them to be effective, in my case at the very least. If everything else in my life is a worthless failure, then why should I think that I can succeed in that?

here is some science that may help rewire some thought process for me you and us: ..in a positive way:
The power of negative self-talk: Research has consistently shown that negative self-talk can have a more significant impact on our mental state than positive affirmations.
whatever you profess from your tongue out of your mouth becomes your reality as you are rewiring your brain doing it.<ponder love...shmity

 

[JustKneller]

The power of negative self-talk

So, if I say, "Well, I doubt that's true" enough, will it invalidate the study?

 

[shmity72]

So, if I say, "Well, I doubt that's true" enough, will it invalidate the study?

While it is a funny one. Think on the double slit experiment. The point of view of the person that 'has the floor' aka the 'observer' dictates whether the light is a particle or wave. Makes you go hmmmm...

I mean if: reality is 'potentiality' when we're not observing it...and when we HAVE to and or happen to it becomes concrete and REAL. Why not make that 'reality' something beautiful or at least be prepared to face it down with confidence if we gather from our psyche that it's a dragon? (see Carl Jung 'shadow work')



~harmony, Jason

 

[mlnevese]

So, if I say, "Well, I doubt that's true" enough, will it invalidate the study?

I know a lot of people that think their belief something is not true will make the problem go away

 

[O_Bruce]

I don't know if I end up complaining about it, but I do got a new job and I'm starting from June. I am looking forward to it, the pay seems okay considering my experience and the work atmosphere seems to be okay. I also already have met some people I might be seeing at work (both me and my brother helped them carrying furniture to their living place), was invited to pizza and played Fallout shelter board game. Was quite fun.

Things might slowly look up for me.

 

[JustKneller]

I'm sick of telling people their loved one is going to die

This leaves me wondering what you do...

It sounds similar to my industry. If you want to DM me what it is you do and in what country, I might have some insights that could help.

 

[Urdnot_Wrex]

This leaves me wondering what you do...

It sounds similar to my industry. If you want to DM me what it is you do and in what country, I might have some insights that could help.

Sorry for venting about something that apparently is triggering, worrying or upsetting for other people who have different workplaces. I will stick to discussing games from now on

 

[JustKneller]

Sorry for venting about something that apparently is triggering, worrying or upsetting for other people who have different workplaces. I will stick to discussing games from now on

I'm sorry someone was triggered by that. But, the kind of work you do needs more of an outlet to vent than most other occupations. I hope you're taking care of yourself.

 

[JustKneller]

So, here's the thing. I used to have a job that was a little more life and death than what I do now. Part of the reason I took the job was that I wanted a little less "excitement" in my life. It's not that bad of a job, it's not a hard job. A large part of my job involves smoothing things over with a client when my company screws something up, and my company is really, really, really, really, really dumb, so I have a lot of job security. Part of that process sometimes involves working with the personal relationships I've developed with our clients over the years. It has saved our bacon on more than one occasion.

Something like that happened today and I did my usual. I sent an email that tapped into a running (totally non-offensive Game of Thrones reference) joke I have with this client. The client was not upset, I'm sure they appreciated it and it helped patch up the bad feels from their inconvenience. However, a manager at my company in a different department, who has had some kind of vendetta* against me for the past year and a half, caught wind of it and filed a complaint with my management. He's even trying to get me removed from the account (which will probably piss off the client). Like, it wasn't even any of his fucking business, it actually helped alleviate the problem, and he's riding in on his broom to ruin my day over it.

Fuck that guy. This is kind of a final straw moment for me. I thought he finally ran out of steam, but he's back at it again. I reached out to a friend at a competing company who has been trying to lure me over there for the past year. She was actually about to reach out to me because a couple of positions just popped up on her end with which she was going to try and tempt me again. I don't know how this is going to shake out, but I'm updating my resume this weekend.

I've come to realize that I've made the wrong choice in life. If I was smarter, I would have gone to school to study whatever retirement portfolio managers study and become a retirement expert. Then I'd spend my career helping other set up for retirement while using my pro-skills to set myself up with a sweet early retirement portfolio, effectively having to spend fewer years of my life working because, let's be honest, a working is overrated.

*So, the vendetta is because this asshat manager received a complaint about me from one of his subordinates about how I refused to do my job. Without fact checking, he blew the whole thing up with upper management. It turns out, what really happened was that his subordinate was actually asking me to do something that was borderline illegal and would open up our company to a lawsuit. I refused to do it and told the subordinate that we couldn't do this and why (illegal/liability). I had that email when I was asked about the situation. The asshat manager probably had to eat a lot of crow on that one.

 

[JanJansen]

I reached out to a friend at a competing company who has been trying to lure me over there for the past year. She was actually about to reach out to me because a couple of positions just popped up on her end with which she was going to try and tempt me again. I don't know how this is going to shake out, but I'm updating my resume this weekend.

I know nothing about your life but that sounds like an opportunity. Don't waste your time with people who make your life difficult. I know a lot of people don't get much choice how to earn their money. If you do, take it.

 

[OrlonKronsteen]

@JustKneller You could write a book about this, you know. I’d read it, for sure.

 

[JustKneller]

@JustKneller You could write a book about this, you know. I’d read it, for sure.

Unfortunately, someone beat me to the punch and made a movie.

I've occasionally had the thought over the last few years or so of writing a book. I had this idea of interlacing a memoir focusing mostly on my experiences with Tibetan Buddhists (along with a bit of my weird career path) over the last 20 or so years with the helpful practical knowledge and skills I picked up along the way. But, I usually dismiss it because a) I think it would be pretentious since I'm not really an "expert" on any of it and b) I think it would be pretentious because I barely even read books anymore (too busy). I think only book I've completely read in the last five years, that wasn't a children's book, were the Mouse Guard comics (bound in book form, so it counts! ) But yeah, what right do I have to write a book?