Take a polaroid of yourself in the mirror, give yourself a kiss, and get over yourself.
I see your point of view and take argument with it let us parse... I suffer from grave mental illness. Will power in and of itself does not solve anything in this world. Though attitude to will may provide a window good or bad depending on the perspective from which it came to a higher reality. the 'self'.If someone told me to "give myself kiss and get over myself", it would be like saying "just don't be depressed!" to a depressed person. Utterly not effective, and patronizing even.
here is some science that may help rewire some thought process for me you and us: ..in a positive way:I know that this is mainly a topic for venting about jobs, but I don't see any other active topic to type things like this.
I concluded that I am utterly incapable of feeling compassion towards myself. I know that in case my friend or any close one has messed up, I'd try to make them feel better, extend a helping hand, or at the very least, try to be informative. Or hell, just listen to them if I can't do anything else. I wouldn't be absolutely merciless towards them like I am to myself.
I know that there are ways to train self-compassion, but I don't believe them to be effective, in my case at the very least. If everything else in my life is a worthless failure, then why should I think that I can succeed in that?
The power of negative self-talk
While it is a funny one. Think on the double slit experiment. The point of view of the person that 'has the floor' aka the 'observer' dictates whether the light is a particle or wave. Makes you go hmmmm...So, if I say, "Well, I doubt that's true" enough, will it invalidate the study?
I know a lot of people that think their belief something is not true will make the problem go awaySo, if I say, "Well, I doubt that's true" enough, will it invalidate the study?